You are doing well

It wont be easy for him to fly back and forth to OW and D3

and since he cant take D3...
he will have to deal with it...maybe he can feel the loss

some things are difficult and usually when there is so much resistance with doors not opening easily- it is not right either

let him deal with it

married 14 years
H 42
bomb 2/07 IDLYA
D final 3 /09
M ow D ow