RVM ~ I sense that you are hoping to get some sort of a reaction from your W.
DB principle: Don't do anything hoping for an outcome or reaction from your W. That is a desire to control your situation.
In that spirit, how about, "Hi W, just wanted to let you know I started seeing an IC" and then leave the room. If she reacts, think, "hmmm that's curious, I guess I'll go on about the rest of my day now"
I'm not intending to get a reaction at all from my W. I'm not even sure if she needs to know that I'm in IC. That's why I posted that topic in this thread - for advice on if I should mention it and how to just casually do it.
My C told me to tell her, and I argued a bit with him b/c I said I'm done having R talks and this might just instigate one. I just want to focus on me and what he can do to help me be a better person for myself and my kids.
M: 40s W: 40s 2 Ds PA suspected Summer 2019 / assumed still ongoing BD: Fall 2019
