I haven’t told my W that I’ve started seeing an IC yet, but I did mention to her several months ago that I probably would. IC recommended that I casually let her know that I am to plant a seed in her mind. i.e. W is probably happy that I have distanced myself from her so she can carry on with her behaviors unimpeded. But, if she's made aware that I’m in IC, it may be a small disruption, as she'd wonder what I'm talking about.
I don’t think it will have any affect on her. She's just so uninterested in me right now. She’ll probably just spew some nonsense like: “I hope you don’t talk about me” or “you probably should, you have a lot of issues.”
What do others think here on how to let her know? She’s never been in C, and when I brought up MC months ago, she wasn’t excited about.
I’ll have to let her know anyway, just curious how I drop it in a conversation.
RVM ~ I sense that you are hoping to get some sort of a reaction from your W.
DB principle: Don't do anything hoping for an outcome or reaction from your W. That is a desire to control your situation.
In that spirit, how about, "Hi W, just wanted to let you know I started seeing an IC" and then leave the room. If she reacts, think, "hmmm that's curious, I guess I'll go on about the rest of my day now"
