All the things that we instinctively WANT to do (beg, plead, chase, try to reconnect, make romantic gestures, fix everything overnight) are all things that tend to only make one's situation worse. I haven't seen a situation here (in my 10 months on the board) where somebody R'ed after breaking Sandi's rules.
In fact, for most people who come to this forum, things are so bad that you can do almost NOTHING (at least in the short-term) that will turn your WAS back towards the MR. It takes time and space.
