You've been clear, but then there is conflicting advice from others and elsewhere.
I get it, I don't want to drag conversations on longer than necessary, I don't want to start them, I don't want to be her friend. I understand that, and to me, that doesn't preclude occasional instances of brief conversation or a joke, as long as I don't try to read anything into her reactions (though I am not sure where the transition to trial and error comes in, where I am supposed to analyze these things). But then there are some instances of advice that's just don't text at all, beyond what is 100% absolutely urgent/necessary. That's why it's confusing.
