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I'm realizing (slightly) that dropping the rope is for me and not to get her back.

This is very important. Remind yourself of this when you GAL!
IT is still hard for me. Did I renovate our daughters room to show her? Yeah Probably a bit. But it made D very happy and that makes me feel tremendous!
Did I like it when W said I have started to look buff after 9 months of persistent gym? Yes! But Im doing it mostly for me. Eventually it will be ONLY for me if we D and sell the house.


For me the videos/pictures have sort of been forgotten. I can remember them vividly when I think about them but they dont mean as much anymore and most important I dont think about them much anymore.

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Why ? - you can't believe anything she says anyway.
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Also very important! I would NOT ask again about the letter and do not expect to get it.
Mine has also said she would write... Nothing! Probably totally forgot about it.

I feel for you in the anxiety and stress! IT is tough! GAL like a crazy person.
For me exercise at the gym and playing video games are great ways to relieve the mind.
Video games is maybe not something you should show WW but for me it really helps to take my mind of things for a few hours.
I have a very hard time meditating but if that works for you its great!


Our turnout is till to be decided.
W lives 50% at our house 50% with OM. Kids live here 100%. I live out of the house but spend a lot of time in the city, at gym, at work, with brother etc when she has her time with the kids.
Right now I feel like I will file for D and sell the house to get my own place and move on for real.
DO NOT want to share her with someone else and I need to take responsibility for mine and my kids happiness.
One of my biggest questions right now is if we sell our house. Do I get a house or do I get an apartment?
How do I want to live in this new reality?
Will give it time and a lot of thought first though.


Me: 34
Stbxw: 30
D:5 D:3
Mini bd: May/June 2019
Married: Aug 2019
BD: 6th Dec 2019
OM Confirmed: Feb 2020
March 2020: I filed for D
Waiting for D to be finalized and W to move out end of January 2021