Is 40% reconciliation an accurate number after an affair? I thought it would be less.
You are still focusing on the odds of getting her back after an affair. I think this number is high.. Not necessarily becuase the WW doesnt want it, but because her mindset returning ( if ever ) could take years - and by that time any healthy minded individual would have realised lifes too short and moved on anyway. But again - this isn't what your mind should focus on.
Originally Posted by kto626
One more thing, Last week at our MC (the last one cuz I said I'm not going anymore), she told the MC she was writing a letter to give me because she communicates best that way (otherwise she gets defensive and angry in person). I haven't gotten anything. I asked about it, which I shouldn't have, a few days ago (before I told her I'm going to focus on me and end MC and set boundaries) and she said she was still writing it. Honestly, I want it to see what it says.
Why ? - you can't believe anything she says anyway..
Originally Posted by kto626
My guess is she rewrites it every time her mood changes
You hit the nail on the head here - WW emotions are up, down and sideways - throw the mentially unstable comments into the mix and you really wont have a clue whats shes thinking or where her head is at - What she says 1 minute is disregarded 5 minutes later - and she will probably deny saying it. Hence stop the communication with her, other that child logistics.. As it will mess with your head.
Previous username - Helpme123.. A name chosen at a desperate time..
Now Mr Brightside.. coming out of my cage, and doing just fine.
