I'm not sure how much advice we can truly give you yet. It sounds like y'all had some problems, some normal, some not so normal.
I think you should take the pressure off of him and off of you for the time being. Take some time and space to breath and figure out who you are and what you want.
If every interaction is bad right now you need to change how you interact or limit your interactions.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
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