I'm still reading through all of your posts but how did you guys turnout?
It was a rollercoaster. She moved out on BD, months 1-2 we had limited interaction, months 3-4 I got that coveted second chance (she offered reconciliation living separately), months 5-7 I got on-board with that. Ultimately, I couldn't tolerate continued screaming, instability, and not admitting to others we were a couple.
I can vouch for personal 180s, GAL, self-compassion, delaying emotional decisions, and validation. These techniques are groundbreaking in romantic relationships and beyond. I wish I applied them sooner.
Turning around relationships is slow, worth it more when kids are involved. I should've cut the line sooner. We see--what?--maybe 40% reconciliation? The techniques are helpful no matter the outcome. I'm thankful I found this forum--and to AnotherStander, Ben, HopeCA, Job, Kristin, LBH, May, Ocean, R2C, Steve, Unchien, etc. My life is happier now and I'm content with my decision to move onward and upward.
