Ah DnJ… you always have such thoughtful posts. I really am in awe of the time you take to help people who are pretty much strangers to you. The equation you shared definitely makes me feel better...lol. Jack has become more of a fixture in my life these last couple of weeks. The reservations I had (have) are slowly starting to fade into the background. I am going to park my brain while I go on holidays and see where I am at when I return. And, just as importantly, see where he is at. The last couple of weeks have been really, really good... I was super busy with work and other things last night and he brought my kids dinner. He then texted me to ask me if there was anything else I wanted him to do which isn't something he has ever asked me before. The thing is... I know that this change has a lot to do with the fact that he missed me when we were apart and also because he didn't think I would ever give him a second chance...so he is trying really hard. But will happen when we start to get really used to each other again??? Of course, I guess that is the million dollar question for anyone in a new relationship. Why does life have to be so complicated? Why don't people just come with labels that tell you the longterm feasibility of being in a relationship with them...lol??