kml the only way I got any love from my parents was by doing whatever they wanted me to do. I was miserable and having a lot of physical health issues which ultimately landed me into IC. Started setting boundaries and I got dumped. 33 years (ironic I know) of doing everything they asked me to do they kicked me to the curb. Discarded like a piece of garbage.
I married my mother and the judgmental part of my father. Mom was emotionally unavailable, rarely happy, nothing I did was good enough, etc. I married H to heal this wound, this time I'd get it right only I didn't. 30 years later he left too and he didn't just leave he REPLACED me. My mother loved the dog more than me and yes she admitted it. So yeah this hurts because I never fully dealt with first loss. I just replaced her with a string of emotionally unavailable men H just happened to be the one I married.
