On the maybe not fully dealing with the issues and thinking you had... that is hard. I totally get it. But if it is the case it also... just *is*, right? It is what it is, nothing you can do about the past. If that is the case then you'll deal with it just like you're dealing with everything else. Like a boss.
On carving out time for yourself... I don't know if this is the case where you live but in a lot of places hotels rooms are super cheap right now, even super swanky ones. Can you do something like that this week?
Me (46) H (42) M:14 T:18, D9 & D11 4/19 - 12/19: series of escalating BDs 9/20 - present: R and piecing