Originally Posted by CWarrior
Originally Posted by kto626
I have told my W I'm setting boundaries because it's time to work on me. Basically, no contact unless it's for my daughter.

The typical losing LBS playbook is to announce boundaries they have not thought through--then regret the damage they cause and look weak by failing to enforce them. Guilty. So let's ensure you're ahead of the curve. Did you announce the boundary is YOU will not contact her, SHE should not contact you, or BOTH? If she should not contact you except about the kids, what consequences will you use to enforce your boundary?

I haven't officially laid out the boundaries yet. I just told her we should only have contact regarding our daughter. I don't know what I should do if she contacted me. Ideally, I would say I don't feel comfortable with her crossing the boundary. I don't know what other ones I need?


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Thanks for the explanation. I didn't realize. Thank you.