WAW - is it too late?

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I had my second IC session yesterday and it went so-so.

We rehashed our first session, going over the details of our R that have caused me a lot of stress and anxiety over the past year. He mentioned that even though there’s overwhelming amount of red flags to indicate that she is probably having an A, that I should still be open to the possibility that she is not.

I understood what he was saying, but I reiterated that even if that were true, I’ve discovered many lies she’s told and some clear attempts to manipulate, and that she also has said a few times: “we are only (parental) partners” now.

I haven’t told my W that I’ve started seeing an IC yet, but I did mention to her several months ago that I probably would. IC recommended that I casually let her know that I am to plant a seed in her mind. i.e. W is probably happy that I have distanced myself from her so she can carry on with her behaviors unimpeded. But, if she's made aware that I’m in IC, it may be a small disruption, as she'd wonder what I'm talking about.

I don’t think it will have any affect on her. She's just so uninterested in me right now. She’ll probably just spew some nonsense like: “I hope you don’t talk about me” or “you probably should, you have a lot of issues.”

What do others think here on how to let her know? She’s never been in C, and when I brought up MC months ago, she wasn’t excited about.

I’ll have to let her know anyway, just curious how I drop it in a conversation.