I have told my W I'm setting boundaries because it's time to work on me. Basically, no contact unless it's for my daughter.
The typical losing LBS playbook is to announce boundaries they have not thought through--then regret the damage they cause and look weak by failing to enforce them. Guilty. So let's ensure you're ahead of the curve. Did you announce the boundary is YOU will not contact her, SHE should not contact you, or BOTH? If she should not contact you except about the kids, what consequences will you use to enforce your boundary?
Originally Posted by kto626
How do I detach? I'm still wanting to contact my W who is still in contact with the OM. I need to work on myself.
Through some mix of GAL and finding distractions when you can't. At first GAL is like pulling teeth, but soon you find you forget your situation for parts of or during the whole GAL, and eventually GAL is something you look forward to and takes up the headspace where you'd previously have been missing your cheating partner.
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