Originally Posted by kto626
I hope it gets better. I want to reach out to her so bad. That anxious feeling in my stomach has come back like it's d-day all over again.


That anxious feeling is totally normal. When people say this will be a rollercoaster, its no joke. The ups and downs can be crazy making at times. It does get better. Quicker if you put the work in. I thought early on that the only thing that would make me feel better is to reconcile however after some time working on myself, I'm feeling better than before BD and am excited about either future. With or without W.

What's helped the most is time, followed by GAL. More thoughts:

Set achievable goals and nail them
Exercise, if you do already then try something new. Spinning, swimming, classes, mma.
Keep up on IC. Root out your issues.
Understand what you did wrong in your M so it doesnt happen again.
Try new foods
When you spend time on yourself, appreciate it
Chase your anxiety, dont let it chase you
Religion, if you have one, get some focus on it
Read Ready2Changes recommended books



H37, W37
D4, S2
ILYBNILWY 9/19
BD 9/19
EA discovered 10/19
Currently in limbo, no D or S process initiated