To update you all. I went to the MC tonight by myself and he said end the couples therapy. There is no point to work on us. He advised me to tell her and to set boundaries. He will see me individually since he knows our situation. I'm hurt and scared. But here I go...I have to try to move forward. Thank you all for your support.
It is hurtful and scary. But it gets better and you can do this. You will find a strength in you that you didn't know you had. Keep coming here and posting. There is so much good help here.
I hope it gets better. I want to reach out to her so bad. That anxious feeling in my stomach has come back like it's d-day all over again.