At the same time, I think some things I learned here kicked in. I felt sad but I didn't beat myself up the way I would have before for how he saw me. I didn't need his validation, or for him to like me. In fact, I realized how sad and pathetic he was. And what a fool for giving up such a beautiful family. He is almost 50 and walking out the door because he is a victim (I'm a monster) and the grass is greener out there. I have been through two failed businesses with him. I have been through his 2 year A. His constant business traveling where I hold the fort down. I've supported his expensive hobbies. I keep myself fit and the house clean. I told him that I am tired of the way he constantly criticizes me. How I can't win with him. If I do something good, he feels it should have been better. The way he compares me to other women. What I wouldn't give for appreciation, admiration, respect.
You are more than enough no matter what he says. I’m happy for you that you have become stronger. I feel the same with my H, I feel sorry for him that he has to hate me to justify his decision to leave his family. The easy way is usually not the right/best way.
