I'm glad you got some space and time to care for yourself. I think that is so, so important in all of this... and I also think you should be so proud of yourself that you were able to step outside of the emotional hurt and see what is really going on with him.
OG, you so, so deserve all the things he isn't giving you right now. And you so, so don't deserve to be treated the way he is treating you-- being married to you is an f-ing gift and if he is too blind or shut down or lost in his own worldview to see that, it is on him 100%, not on you.
Feeling that peace must have been amazing. You sound really strong and like you are on the right path. I know it will continue to be hard and you'll probably slip back here and there, but if you can hold onto that feeling of peace, of knowing you've done everything you can do, of believing in yourself and loving yourself and being prepared to advocate for yourself... that is incredible. Kudos and love to you.
Thank you, May. I know you have been through so much too, so you get it.
I think you're right. I will need to be okay with the fact I will slip back here and there, but I can keep perspective of where I am going and that I will be okay.
I am so grateful to be someone who is beginning to be able to advocate for myself and not abandon myself. I was no doubt the poster child for a desperate, needy LBS. I felt like if he didn't love me my life is over.
Now I know, no matter what, my life is mine. My future is mine.
the best apology is changed behavior. *************** me: 45 h: 48 m: 23 T: 26 DD1:19 DD2:16 DS:11 BD1: PA for 2 yrs 08/2016 BD2: OW is one of my closest friends 12/2016 BD3: H wants a D 11/2019
