OG, I've been reading your story and my heart hurts for you. For all of us here. It is hard to comprehend sometimes what they say to us, how they twist it all around in their heads and hearts. You said you have been true to your values. Be proud of that. Even on the days I have to pick myself up off the floor because I was curled up there in a ball crying I really do believe that if we try to live in alignment with our values everything will turn out okay. You deserve a spouse who treats you with admiration, appreciation and respect. Every day is just one foot in front of the other, trying to get through this day and then the next and the next. You are doing that and doing it with dignity and grace.