It sounds as if you've struggled with disrespect for quite some time. Do you have this type of problem with anyone else.......like, co-workers or family members (other than your W)? Verbal disrespect comes in all shapes & sizes.
No, not at all. And, this only started when she became wayward. It's not a daily occurrence. My W also has had a history of making these judgy/bossy/petty-critical types of comments to all people who've become really close to her - the kids, her family. They all recognize it as one of her traits.
I've never had a problem with quick, witty comebacks. In fact, that's one thing I've always been really good at. But, when all the red flags were raised about a possible A, plus all the spewing that seemingly came out of nowhere, I was thrown back and not sure how to respond.
Once I got more footing, I did make comebacks, and sometimes mine were unfortunately really nasty as I reacted too quickly rather than just responded with a quiet, confident rebuff - which I am getting better at.
Since this is my W and mother of my children and not just some friend or family member I could more easily distance myself from physically and emotionally, I've struggled on how to deal with these situations.
What I really want are examples of consequences people on this forum have used in similar situations.
Last edited by RVM; 03/10/2009:43 PM.
M: 40s W: 40s 2 Ds PA suspected Summer 2019 / assumed still ongoing BD: Fall 2019
