I haven't seen a lot of talk about children on here, which kind of surprises me, because they are a pretty significant aspect, and I think probably expected there to be more dedicated discussion to that subject.
Best advise I got was to completely emerge myself in my kids "bubble" and stay out of W bubble.
Divorce has a profound impact on the kids. If it were not for this, I would most likely not be posting here.
I am sure you are like the rest of us that want your kids 100% of the time. Well your spouse has other plans. If your relationship with your kids is important, as well as their well being, then you will most likely have to stand up and fight for this.
Yes, I considered asking for more time with my kid. Not because of my desire to have her 100% of the time, because I wouldn't want to deprive my daughter of her mother, but because of some of the concerns I had about my wife's mental/emotional health and how that would impact our daughter long term, and because there were recent incidents involving her safety that bothered me. However, I've found out that unless she's completely incapable of functioning due to any issues and there's not extreme neglect/abuse, then it's basically a cheeseless tunnel.
But, the impact of a divorce on my kid is my biggest concern, and really what brought out the anger in me when dealing with my wife. So, it's a little difficult for me to want to prevent this terrible thing from happening to my daughter and then going and basically putting her in the same situation I am trying to avoid for her.
But, as it is, I am out until pretty much her bed time two nights a week (my wife goes to bed at the same time as she does). Then there is another night where there is about an hour and a half, at most, from the time I get home and when I go out and play basketball. So that is three nights a week already that my wife has to stay home and watch her because I have things I'm doing. Then, once they are in bed, I do my own thing. Sometimes that's going to a movie, sometimes it's reading the Bible, sometimes it's working on more education, sometimes it's just relaxing at home, sometimes it's going to the store, sometimes going out for a walk. The other nights, it's possible I'll take my daughter out somewhere if there is any time.
