Thanks BenB

[Mumin]

Thanks ovr and AS!
My answer was short. Not as good as your suggestions but much better than initial thought.

But had I pointed it out to her she would likely get angry about it. Keep things neutral and brief. You don't want to elicit ANY emotion in her. Not joy, not anger. Both will make her mad right now!

Very good explanation! Thanks!

I will continue to Db and see what happens the next few weeks/month.
There is a small house for sale and at a good price that would be great for me and the kids..
Tonight will be interesting, first time I will se her in a week...
Might be an MBR discussion.