Hi Wayfarer, wow, it's great you were able to be supportive of your H through his race and he appreciated it--while at the same time grappling with your feelings over the AP, your depression, and your mom's passing--while holding onto that he can't just backpedal into your relationship. You're one of the people here whose emotional resilience impresses me. Anyway, I'm happy for your progress to at least "neutral".