Sounds like you're searching for the magic elixir to fix this. It doesn't exist. Forget about her counseling, forget about some counselor "pushing" her and that's going to do anything.
You should go to all your kids events. You should not facetime. You should list out your 180s and get to work on your personal growth. You should list out some GAL ideas and get started with that. Stop pursuing her altogether.
I don't understand how alternating weeks with the MC isn't smart? He knows us both (we saw him well before d-day while she was in the affair...she want honest there either but now it's known). I don't have to be in the room with my W while using a therapist who knows both of us. IC is a good idea so why isn't this? My IC doesn't know her.
Last edited by job; 03/11/2008:25 PM. Reason: fixed quote
