Also, my IC said she thinks I should go to MC but individually while alternating weeks. The MC has agreed to meet me without her but I haven't asked him his thoughts. He honestly is a nice, caring guy who continues to tell her seeing the OM right now is wrong and unhealthy, regardless of what she wants to do with me. I do think he pushes her a bit and if I'm not there then she won't get pissed off and shut down like she always does when I'm there.
Thoughts?
Sounds like you're searching for the magic elixir to fix this. It doesn't exist. Forget about her counseling, forget about some counselor "pushing" her and that's going to do anything.
You should go to all your kids events. You should not facetime. You should list out your 180s and get to work on your personal growth. You should list out some GAL ideas and get started with that. Stop pursuing her altogether.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
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