It’s pretty common for the LBS to have doubts, and blame themselves for their spouse’s cheating. It’s not right, but it is pretty common.
Listen to me.
You are good! You did not fail!
H is in emotional turmoil and deep within a crisis. He is projecting upon you, poking at you, taunting you, if an effort to make you blow up. In a effort to make his emotionally exiting easier on him. Do not take his bait!
Be a roommate. Be detached and become indifferent.
You know better. You know the truth. Remember know vs feel. Feelings change and are fleeting.
Your feeling the love leave you. Welcome to indifference. It’s a strange place. Well done.
This is good. It’s ok to feel nothing towards H. It’s ok to love H. It’s ok to hate H. Don’t worry you’re not broken. (((Can))) Use this indifference. Focus on you and D3.
This lack of emotions is normal and good. However, like all feelings - do not make decisions based solely upon that. Feelings (and the absence of) do fleet.
Yes. Breathe, and know that you and D3 will get through this - no matter what.
During his visit stay calm and intellectual; do not let your emotions get the better of you. Even though it would probably feel pretty good to blast him.
I am pleased to hear from you. I do hope you can carve out some moments to update and post during this visit.
How long is his planning on staying?
Stay strong Can.
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
