Needing to pull a last resort

[Pommy99]

I'd rather spend time with my kid.

I enjoy it. It's the best part of life IMO. I can't think of anything more getting a life than that.

That is something to be proud of, for sure. But you aren’t just a father. Is this why you are in this sitch? That you forgot to be a husband and your own person? I haven’t read your entire thread, sorry, but you need to be out there showing your W that you want and need adult relationships ,so go and interact with other adults. That could involve your daughter if you wish, like a playgroup, for example. But also think about what life will look like if you do split . You won’t have your children 7 days a week so prepare yourself now for how you might start spending child-free time. Your W presumably wants a man to shower her with attention, to put her front and centre. If she still only sees you playing the role of father she will never see that you are husband material.