DR lists out several types of pursuit and the LBS is always like a child asking the teacher for an exception. Texting her every day is pursuit. I would stop texting her altogether. The LRT is super easy:
Do you mean, stop initiating non-essential conversations via text altogether?
Because, of course, I have to communicate with her about our daughter at times.
I have been letting her initiate anything the last few days if it wasn't something important (which nothing has been over the weekend). And I was doing less last week.
She has a couple of times in the last week offered to do something for me, without my asking, or implying that it was something I thought about.
Texting about your daughter doesn't count. Otherwise, do not call or text her.
If she calls, let it go to VM. If it is important she will leave a VM or followup with a text.
If the text is informational. "Daughter has dr. apptment at 4pm on Monday." there is no need to response. If she asks a direct question, answer not right away, but in your own time, and in as few words as possible. Yes or no questions get yes or no answers.
We see a lot of LBSs here with kids. Many of them use the kids as an excuse to stay in contact with their WAS. Do not do that. Essential contact ONLY!
So, if she sends me a text in the middle of the day about something she found interesting or funny, I should just leave it be and not engage?
What about things when we're at home (we are still in the same house if I didn't mention it before)? Jokes about what's on TV, or something our daughter does? Responding to her comments/jokes, especially if they're directed at me? Just natural conversation type things.
