He came home today and I was still sleeping... he let the dogs out and fed them for me. He started rattling in a cabinet where there are some pet supplies and I heard him say "stupid b**ch, who does this like this" while lying in bed.
I ask him what he is needing and he said cat food. I said I moved to the rest of the pet food storage in garage. He feeds cats too.
I later get up and I said thank you for letting me sleep. He then barks back that he would have been quieter if he knew where the cat food was.
I go take a shower. Later S18 is up and H is asking about his weekend with the competition (this is his step son). He was asking questions about the robot stuff and said he saw the video... NOW the only way he could see the video is if he snooped on my FB page because S18 would have never sent it. I had listed that video as to view for public so he could see it if he chose to - and clearly he chose to go looking on my facebook status.
I go to work and get a bevy of texts complaining how I changed username and password to his 401k accounts. Now the name change was a requirement years ago but the password change was 1 month ago --- written down in our pasword book AND he even texted me was on the account and I stated yes and that I had changed the password and it is now X... he is refusing to believe me EVEN AS I SHOW HIM THE TEXTS. He asks me what the F'k am I trying to do to him????
He is angry at me and I'm not even home.
I get home for lunch and he is getting ready for bed. He isn't speaking to me and I am asking why he is so angry with me. That I was never hiding anything. He says it doesn't seem that way to him. I stated he felt he deserved his toys so I made sure he had his toys. He felt that he needed to retire at 56 so I was making sure that happened for him. He keeps accusing me of being the one not being transparent.
He stated he wanted it left alone. And, I'm still talking... He states -THIS IS WHY WE ARE TOXIC (what???? he is the one who wanted to be amicable and work this out ourselves)
I'm so frustrated and he has changed all the passwords to even our joint account at "his" bank.
I'm sooooo p*sssed off.
How can he continue to be so angry at me????
Last edited by job; 03/09/2005:45 PM. Reason: edited language
