Kristin, I know you feel awful right now and I do feel sorry for you! But you really need some 2x4's. This was very predictable. You have ignored the advice over and over again and kept pursuing her and lapping up whatever breadcrumbs she threw on the ground. Whenever she showed the least interest in recon you rolled out the red carpet and struck up the band. Your getting BD'd again was inevitable, and you were told so, but you thought you knew better. So now you know. The question is, what are you going to do moving forward? Because what you did certainly did not work, just like everyone here told you it wouldn't. Don't let this happen to you again. Detach. GAL. Go COMPLETELY dark on her. Don't be her bestie. Don't be her backup plan. You are far too good for that. When she comes back begging and pleading and making promises, shut her down. Tell her to go get IC and come back in 4 months and that you expect to see some real improvement in her before you'll even consider the first stages of possible recon.
