Also If I wait for her to do it, and she does it, I think I will wish I had.
Well the end result is the same no matter who files. Are you sure you're not just saying that because you want to feel like you have "control" of the situation? I mean I get it, we all scramble to find some semblance of control again after BD. But just remember you control you. That's where your focus needs to be.
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Short update and question: Me and W have since Tuesday had Zero contact, except for her once asking if kids are alright, until today (Saturday). She is away in another city for the weekend and asked if it is ok that she stays at a friend (female she is travelling with) on Sunday, and then take the kids on Monday. Really do NOT understand what is happening as it would be standard for me to have the kids all weekend with our current setup. She doesn't have to ask me that...
Have not responded yet. Any suggestions?
As ovr said, keep responses short and businesslike. "Yes that will be fine." No need to point out that you would have them anyway or anything like that.
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Will probably say something like: "You getting the kids from school on Monday would be normal so I don't see that you really need to ask."
No that would be antagonistic. It's like you're calling her stupid or forgetful. My XW has made similar statements and rather than point out her error I just reply back "sure it's fine" or such, and often she will then reply back saying "oh I had my days mixed up, forgot you will have them anyway!" But had I pointed it out to her she would likely get angry about it. Keep things neutral and brief. You don't want to elicit ANY emotion in her. Not joy, not anger. Both will make her mad right now!
