Kas - there is nothing in his situation to envy. Let’s not romanticize as it started as an affair. Where is the romance in telling their “so how did you two meet?” story. She got with a married man!!! That is their truth. I found it helpful to do some reading on MLC and the other woman. Google it and you will find lots of info that breaks down the pattern of this relationship. He is a broken man running for a band aid and she is attracted to him because she is broken herself.
It takes time to process a long term marriage. Healthy people take time. You have been given the gift of time and as you are taking the time to process, seeks answers and work on yourself you will come out of this stronger.
You are the prize. You get to sleep with a clear conscience. Keep posting your thoughts so we can help you work through them. Get sewing!
Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13 BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room" 8/15: H back to MBR 10/15: H back in dorm room 1/18: H files, now divorced
