Affair Fog-LRT

[ovrrnbw]

Hi KTO,

I feel your pain. I've been there and done that. It was about 2 years ago that my sitch started.

I would stop all your pursuit. I believe your daily face time is pursuit. But most of the people I've shared this thought with tend to think that they must Facetime their kids every day and thus interact with their WAS. I probably won't change your mind there but you are going to limit your healing and growth this way.

I have never competed for a woman. If she doesn't see what's good in you then let her choose someone else. But you sticking around, pursuing her throughout all of this is showing her that you will tolerate disrespect, that you will lower your standards for her.

Remove the pressure. The therapist urged you to continue booking, therapists need clients. They do a noble job, but they must stay in business if they are to help everyone. I would stop going. I wouldn't explain my decision. If asked by your W, you could simply say "you know why".

I have always been a fixer, wanting to fix things, and my W had said to stop trying to tell her how to feel (I need to get better at this...I've tried talking to her about the affair fog).

I did this too. You are being logical with a low emotional IQ right now. Hear her words.