Everything I read and learn in therapy is time is on my side. I guess I'm taking it hoping she will come back.
With all due respect, you are probably reading the things you want to read / see / apply to your situation - which is oh so common for the LBS.. They come here looking for a magic bullet / quick fix.
This isnt a quick fix - you say time is on your side - but this could be a marathon... Read a bit more on some of these posts - all are oh some similar - but few come to a quick fix - a lot of situations are 5 years / 7 years plus !
Most LBS want to stand by their vows / partner -myself included 14 months ago.
But there are 2 things to consider here ( IMO )
1) - you are also in a fog - like most LBS are - You still love your WW and want take the rough with the smooth - Which is great ( and the way it should be ) - but once your fog lifts, you may realise that she was flawed - yes.. Sorry to be blunt, but your WW was far from perfect and not the great partner you thought you married... The red flags were probably there 9 years ago and you overlooked them ( also guilty ) .. The fact she has cheating on you shows she has faults - and even if you did try again, whats to stop her looking around the next time she gets bored. If you get to the point where you see this, you may realise there is so much more to life than a WW who doesnt even stick to her vows
2) You are 38 - The same age i was when my ex went WW.. Do you really want to sit around until you are 45 plus - wasting years of your life waiting for a WW - who may never return - and even if she did, there would always be that "niggle" .. You could do so much more with your life
Drop the rope and start working on you - there are lots of posts on this.. Be the best version of you that you can be - for you... Not for WW
Last edited by MrBrside; 03/09/2003:06 PM.
Previous username - Helpme123.. A name chosen at a desperate time..
Now Mr Brightside.. coming out of my cage, and doing just fine.
