Gosh Belleva he sounds so confused! The fact he feels weird having a meal but not weird having sex with OW is indicative of how f’ed up their minds get.

I have also had the irrational behaviours from H: telling me he wants to separate and then accusing me of ignoring him when I don’t reply to his texts, or that I don’t pay him attention when we are watching tv together. I just don’t know why it is they want! Also with my H away every week he would call/text to let me know where he was going, when he was back at hotel etc. I never asked him to do this, but he would then complain that he had to give me a running commentary on his whereabouts.

You sound like you are making progress with detaching, which is really good.

You are separated right? How long ago did he move out, can I ask?

M:49 H:49
T:20 M:18
D:16 D:14

EA: Feb 2019-May 2020
Separated: Mar-early Aug 2020
H asked to reconcile: Jun 2020
EA relapse: Oct/Nov 2020
Recon #2: since Nov 2020