Grace, this whole exchange really touched me. That feeling of wanting someone else to fix it - that to me is something I can recognize from a very brief time in my life when I was mildly depressed. A deep lack of belief in oneself, and it takes over.
I'm glad you could verbalize to H that he is the one with the power, he just doesn't see it yet. I hope he works through until he realizes that he is in charge of his own life - and that with thoughtful choices he absolutely can achieve everything he wants. And I do believe that means you and your family. PLUS (hopefully) a newfound sense of Self and Purpose for H. I hope so.
