Are you positive about his intention based on the content of his side of those exchanges? I had a colleague once who, on business trips, often bought a random lady a drink and enjoyed the bit of attention that got him. We'd shoot pool or somesuch after and then return to the hotel together.
Well, that's the thing, he doesn't want to talk about, he just admits that he was "not behaving" and will now "behave." I honestly do not see the point of pursuing the line of questioning.
Originally Posted by CWarrior
Did he do something to celebrate your birthday--a dinner or a gift?
In the end, we went to do an activity of my choosing.
Originally Posted by CWarrior
It sounds like your resentment's building and you're almost ready to leave. Have you let your partner know? The sooner you "Ball Drop" them that there are grave marital issues, the sooner you two can decide how much effort you're each willing to put in, leading towards a happy ending together or in divorce.
Have not brought it up. I would like to figure out what I want first before bringing it up. From the last two times (where it was me who tried to save the relationship), I have learned that I need to take care of myself and plan for it, because I will likely need a new job and maybe even new friendships to help carry me through. And to be honest, it is incredibly painful for me to think of divorce -- the thought of leaving him makes me so sad and upset (it goes without saying that I do love my H). But I am also at that point where I am wondering if I'm shortchanging myself and not living up to my own potential. I am wondering if I can suck it up, rip the bandage off, and start working towards a different possibility of life, maybe I have greater happiness ahead?
Or maybe I'm just being arrogant and unappreciative. I don't know. I'm here because I'm frustrated after trying to fix so may things. So hoping there are other people with experiences like this who can give advice and help me clear my head.
