Nice to see you back Ben, really hope it is not cancer!

I really understand you going with her.
With regards to detachment I would try to prepare mentally for different settings.

Me: 34
Stbxw: 30
D:5 D:3
Mini bd: May/June 2019
Married: Aug 2019
BD: 6th Dec 2019
OM Confirmed: Feb 2020
March 2020: I filed for D
Waiting for D to be finalized and W to move out end of January 2021