I never liked the mantra of believe nothing they say and half of what they do. I think that was created strictly for the cheaters. I think your w is being honest with you on how she feels right now. How she feels today may not reflect how she feels 5 years from now. One of the biggest misconceptions on here is that a divorce means the story is over.
I'm not gonna lie Scotty you have a long painful road ahead of you but you will get through it. It's a journey and the best thing you can do is embrace it.