I'm so sorry for what you are going through. Life can deal some pretty significant punches in rapid succession sometimes.
I think Yail has a great idea. Volunteering is a great way to get out of your headspace and do something for the community, especially after a tragedy. I've worked for Habitat for Humanity several times. It really puts things into perspective, plus you get to help others improve their lives.
As far as WW goes - it may be best for your own sanity to work on detachment now. Let her go do what she feels she needs to do. It cannot be good for your own well being for her to keep running back to AP all the time. I think she has to fear losing you.
