"what do we tell our friends, they'll ask?" (if in a situation when we were all invited to friend's)
Since some friends sense there's issues in our R and likely my oldest D does to - I'm a bit sensitive to how I may be portrayed in this sitch. These people don't know about her awful behavior, yet.
Why give someone who portrays you negatively, the responsibility and control of relaying your message? "I'll talk to D", "I already talked to D", "I'll talk to our friend", "I already talked to our friend." If in some case the message doesn't matter to you at all--she's like "What do I tell the Barista?", then just "Up to you. :)"
It is kinda important that your D feel comfortable with your comings and goings. When I go somewhere when my D is home, she knows how to reach me, and when I'll return. She often asks where I'm going.
I agree with all of that.
The examples I gave were times when I have made last minute decisions to go out and my kids were in bed already or my family was on their way over to our friends' house and I'm not home yet, etc.
I just want to call a better audible in those kind of impromptu moments that isn't deceitful or somehow frightening for my children should they wake up or ask my wife a lot of questions which they certainly will do. At the same time, it is really none of her business what I'm doing.
When I do already have advanced plans, I definitely let my kids know ahead of time.
M: 40s W: 40s 2 Ds PA suspected Summer 2019 / assumed still ongoing BD: Fall 2019
