I hope May's words are helping you refocus. They help me refocus!
Originally Posted by Pommy99
I feel like I am doing what he has wanted all along, to make it easy for him to exit the marriage.
I want to gently push back on this. As May pointed out, maybe there is, in the end, not that much difference between trial S/S--or at least, that difference is mostly created by your fear of the potential future outcome of S, which you don't have control over either (I am trying to get better at accepting this lack of control myself). And it might be accepting this and giving him the time/space that makes it harder for him to exit the marriage after all. The alternative, which is maybe trying to control him or how he approaches the S/what he does during it, might actually make it easier for him to exit, in his foggy mind.
