Actions speak louder than words. If you want a divorce, take action. Bringing up divorce with her just shows that you are indecisive about it. It's ok to be indecisive at this point, but I think you want to see what she says and determine how to act based off of her reactions. Do what YOU want.
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Point taken! Just the angry emotions talking there. I still want my family to be whole again but I know I need to get to the place where I'd be fine either way.
