Detachment = not letting his words or deeds affect you emotionally.
How would you say you are doing in that regard?
I see LBWs in particular all the time give lip service to detachment, and even recognize "I am still not detached". Almost as if not being detached is a badge of honor. Sorry, but detachment is not for your sitch or to affect your WAH. IT IS FOR YOU! It is impossible to move forward without detaching.
Detachment is freeing. It helps ebb the pain. It will give you a new perspective. Detachment makes you go from thinking your life is over unless he comes back, to realizing that the world is your oyster REGARDLESS OF WHAT HE DECIDES.
When I started to detach well, the affect it had on me was profound. OH and in my sitch it also happened to help her see that she was standing to lose everything important in her life, and woke her up. NOTE: That second part is not guaranteed in anyone else's sitch. HOWEVER, that is not the reason for detachment. See my previous paragraph for why detachment is so important. TO THE LBS!! Sometimes it has the side-effect that it has an affect on the WAS.
Detach. Detach. Detach. You are happy. Upbeat. Fulfilled. Pleased. Looking forward to an awesome life. NO MATTER WHAT HE SAYS OR DOES.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
