That is called "rewriting history". Have you read Divorce Remedy? This is classic WAS, WS stuff. My W claimed she had never been happy for one second in our 19 years of marriage. All the negative things that I had done were repeated. No positives. Just like he is doing to you.

It is all the fantasy fog. He has to convince himself that you are terrible to justify the awful and terrible decisions he is making. It is a coping mechanism of sorts.

But the worst thing you can do is reason with him. Just let it go. His current perception is his reality, no matter how rooted in fantasy it is.

M(53), W(54),D(19)
M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017
Ring and Piecing since March 2018