Regarding her needs being met, I take it as with her being with OM. The only thing I can think of right now is we didn't get to go out much for dates etc. due to the kids and busy work schedule, but I should have made an effort to make this happen. We did spend almost all of our evenings together but mostly at home. Now I think she's enjoying her little escape from reality once or twice per week when I have the kids over and she's enjoying her freedom. I know she often struggles when she has the kids on her own and seems to look forward to the break when I have them.
I could have ( may have ) written this 14 months ago - I often felt like this when my WAW got with the OM..
My WAW struggled with the kids ( still does ) and loves her nights out... let’s put this into context - Your WW isn't 21 anymore - she is an adult and made decisions along the way. she has children, she has / had a husband - she had responsibilities... I'll never get why people (note people, not just women) decide they want to settle, bang on about having children and bring a child into the world etc, but don't grasp the concept that children are not a Barbie doll / He-man figure. Children are not toys these people can just put down once they get bored / want to move onto the next exciting thing. i.e. Once you become a parent they have to make sacrifices for 14 - 18 years.. Sandi writes that the WAW is the most selfish type of individual - or words to that effect from memory - and it’s true.. So what do you need to do - be the opposite of the self destructive WAW. Be there for your children, be the best dad you can be and show the kids the love / happy environment they deserve – You don’t need WAW to do this – its something you can provide and control… you can't control her or her silly actions. Let her self destruct - while you build on being a better you, the best father you can be and make the most of the life you are making..
Thanks for the reply, MrBrside. Love that tune btw. Everthing you said rings so true. I've always been a very involved dad (always room for improvement though) and W has always said how I'm such an amazing dad. I think her knowing they'll be having a great time with me eleiviates some guilt whilst she's out being 21 again. The kids never seem to want to go back to mummy's house after they've been with me.
