WAW - is it too late?

[RVM]

Remember: You cannot nice her back.

Agreed. I tried that and failed miserably for months after BD. Once my depression-fog lifted, I've been better about this - albeit with plenty of mistakes.

I'm at a stage right now, that I'm not even sure I want her back. If my kids were older I might have more conviction to file for D. She is so far removed from the person I knew and loved. Looking back at the 1+ years, I see where all the deception and lies were made. And, her outright gas lighting of me with friends and family had me reeling for a long time. I'm not sure how I'll get past that.