I wish I had not contacted him. It just got to me what my friend informed me of... I wasn't sleeping and I should have absolutely taken the route... when in doubt do nothing.
Again, I'm so sorry you're going through this.
If you haven't already, May's thread is a great read. She's dealt with a PA and her ex broke it off and seems on the reconciliation path. She simultaneously was clear divorce would not be a happy outcome, while putting up heroic amount of non-pressure and non-prying. In May's case they had younger kids. In your case you do not. It's worth considering there are many people who'd love to be your partner who aren't lying cheaters.
My ex was AMAZING. She taught at Harvard and was a world class athlete, she's an extreme adventurer.. EXCEPT she yelled at me, deceived me, wouldn't re-commit, and was triggered by my son. At some point, you realize those EXCEPTs outweigh the plusses. We were on the reconciliation path and I decided to finally step off it. I had a 2-month rebound after. I had a better time with someone who wasn't up to my ex physically or mentally, but was an honest person looking for commitment.
You said when in doubt do nothing. HE JUST TOLD YOU HE'S CHEATING ON YOU!!! Responding to his texts, helping him, promising to help later, apologizing so much he's asking you to stop..
Consider stop responding until you figure out what you want to do.
I should have never texted him period early this am... I was good and promised myself I would go radio silent. But, now he is reminded at how angry I make him... he can't see past his anger and hurt from what went wrong with us.
He is too much into this person... who he state he has known for years and knows he loves her.
Deep down I know he is filling a need that was left empty by me... I get it.
I have to leave town next week and he said he would take care of the house and dogs. I was stupid enough to state something like
"I know you will take her fishing on my boat, I know you will take her riding on my motorcycle, but I hope you will not bring her here to my home if not out of respect for me for at least my son who is at home"
That upset him and he claimed that I am clearly mistaken who he is... that that statement means I do not value him as a person.
I tried validating - you don't think I respect you as a person?
