WAW - is it too late?

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As mentioned in previous post W makes a lot of passive-aggressive, argument-baiting judgy comments towards me - often done low-key in front of the kids. I’ve been mostly good about responding with nods or “okay” type of comments. But, overall I am struggling with this and mostly it is because it just feels like she’s potentially poisoning my kids’ minds.
Any suggestions on how to handle these situations? Should I bring this issue up with my W? Or just validate or ignore and move on?
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Stop nodding, or saying okay to them. IGNORE THEM. Your kids minds aren't going to be poisoned to you based on what your W says, they will be based on what you do. So give them no reason to think of you as anything other than an awesome dad.

Agreed. And, this is what I do almost all of the time.

She did make a comment a few weeks ago – “are you going to go out every night now?” in a disapproving/angry tone. But, hasn’t said anything since then about my GAL activities and does not show any emotion regarding my activities.

If it comes up again simply say: "I am trying to stay busy to deal with everything that has happened." And then shutup and listen and validate. "Well, you going out all the time makes me feel like you are avoiding your parental duties." You: 'I can understand how you'd feel that, way. The kids are already in bed before I go out. If they wake up and you need assistance, just text me."

Good replies, thanks.

We are not currently S or D. But, she has said a few times over the past few months, that "if we ever get D, I want it to be amicable."

Sandi, et al. I'd like some feedback on my past few posts.

They all say that. "I understand how you feel, and I agree that we should do so amicably with a focus on the our kids."

Good to know. I've done this. I think the one mistake I kept making was bringing that topic up when I was really in my depressed fog a few months ago.